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We further found that, on satisfaction, stability, positive communication, and soothing, hostile couple-conflict types had the lowest mean scores and validating couple-conflict types the highest mean scores.
For example, some marital patterns that even professionals often take as a sign of a problem--such as having intense fights or avoiding conflict altogether--I have found can signify highly successful adjustments that will keep a couple together.
Validating Couples who “validate” are able to let each other know in the midst of disagreements that they each consider the emotions of the other as valid.
They may not agree with the emotions, or even the points made, but they are able to validate each other.
Both partners make an effort to listen and understand the others' feelings, problems, and perspective.
Volatile These couples seem to thrive on constant conflict.